Our Love Story❤️

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I thought I’d switch it up a bit from my usual pregnancy updates & share with you all my Fiancé & I’s love story from where it all began. We have a long history that most people (even some of our closest friends) don’t even know about😱

The beginning

Corey & I’s story began 10 years ago when we were just fifteen years old. I initially saw Corey in a bowling alley & it truly felt like love at first sight for me. Nerdy, I know. I can’t describe in words how or why I was so instantly drawn to him but in that moment I knew I needed to know his name.  A friend of mine was gracious enough to find out. The next day I messaged him on Facebook & introduced myself. 

We instantly connected. After our first conversation, we exchanged numbers & began texting almost daily. A few weeks later, texts turned into phone calls. Short calls before dinner, turned into calls that lasted until 5am. 

    We knew early on that a “serious” high school relationship was nearly impossible for us for various circumstances. 

    1. We went to different schools in different towns.

    2. We were both active in sports.

    3. Our extra curricular activities were almost entirely opposite so there were very few days in the year that we’d ever have a chance to be face-to-face. 

    We kept our relationship strictly no strings attached (although my heart was fully attached from the beginning) throughout the following three years of high school.

    Shortly after my sixteenth birthday, I vividly remember one conversation that has stuck with me all these years. I told Corey that no matter what our futures held after high school, that I would never forget him being the first boy I’d fallen in love with & that he’d always be a little more special than whoever I married because of that. Corey replied that I never had to think of a future without him because he was going to marry me one day❤️

    Emotionally, our non-exclusive immature relationship took a toll on my fragile, teenage heart over the following two years. Jealousy & separation anxiety began to hinder everything we had. We both tried dating other people, purposely trying to make each other jealous & while our feelings for each other were telling us one thing, our regular busy lives were telling us this was just bad timing. 

    Being one grade ahead, the end of my senior year was approaching. I had to start thinking about life without Corey once college started. 

    Graduating & starting college was supposed to be an exciting experience to look forward to but for me, it was a heartbreaking experience. Corey & I mutually agreed our relationship ended there & our lives without each other would begin. 

    Life without him

    I began college feeling incomplete & insecure not having someone like Corey to fall back on. I landed myself into a long 3 1/2 year emotionally abusive relationship where my darkest days came out & severely effected my mental & physical health. I had lost all sense of self-worth. I felt like I was constantly fighting for affection & respect.

    Corey & I sporadically checked in with each other from time to time throughout those 3 1/2 years. I couldn’t help but always feel a little bit of that heartbreak overcome me again each time we caught up. Corey was living happily without me. Here I was miserable, like this was as good as it was going to get for me & there was no way out.

    As time went on, I could see my relationship was never going to get any better & Corey was there for me when I finally made the conscious decision to put an end to my relationship & move home. 

    Together Again

    I moved home just after my 22nd birthday, landed myself an awesome job & began spending as much time with Corey as I had the chance to. Everything was different this time. In my opinion, being in separate relationships & growing up without each other only helped both of us realize exactly what we wanted in a life partner. Corey was extremely patient with me while I slowly overcame low self-esteem, recovered from an eating disorder & learned to accept an unconditional love I had not experienced in my previous relationship.

    Three Years Later

    Today i’m engaged to the boy I fell in love with at the innocent age of fifteen. We’re expecting a beautiful baby girl, living the life we talked about having together ten year ago. As much as I would’ve loved to spend every waking moment with Corey from day one, our roller coaster of history has shaped our relationship into one that I don’t think we would’ve maturely grown to appreciate had we not experienced the ups & downs we did. Not everyone gets the opportunity to find a love like we have & for that I am so blessed❤️

    First Trimester Must Haves!

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    Hey hey, everyone! Today’s topic is again, all about that long (and sometimes miserable) 14 weeks! Only this post could just make the first trimester a little easier for you ladies looking forward to babies in the future! 

    I feel very blessed to have been able to experience, in my opinion, a very healthy, misery free first trimester. I give full credit to the essentials I’m going to talk about below so I’ll just get right into it!

    1. PRENATAL VITAMINS– For obvious reasons! Folic acid & Iron are two of the most essential vitamins you need. Folic acid helps baby’s brain & spinal cord development. This is especially important prior to conceiving, so if you plan to get pregnant, start taking those prenatals!! Iron will help prevent anemia. Your body needs iron to make extra blood for your baby & helps move oxygen through your body & to baby’s. Iron deficiencies can leave you feeling fatigue, one of the most common symptoms of early pregnancy. IMPORTANT!! Prenatal gummies DO NOT contain iron. If you choose to take a gummy vitamin, take an iron supplement on top of that!! Side Note** Iron often results in nausea. Take your prenatal after eating your biggest meal of the day. I prefer after dinner 🙂 

    2. PINK STORK TEA – There isn’t much to say about this product except that it did wonders for me! Made with organic ginger, black tea leaves & it’s caffeine free! Thanks to a cup of this in the morning, I did not get sick once in my first trimester 🙂 This line also has a tea for preparing for labor, & milk supply so you can bet I’ll be adding those to my regimen! 

    3.HONEY – Pregnancy suppresses your immune system, leaving mama-to-be more susceptible to all kinds of viruses & infections. I developed a horrible three month upper respiratory infection shortly before finding out I was pregnant. Several doctors visits, antibiotics & inhalers later, my doctor recommended honey. Honey is a natural anti-inflammatory. The ONLY thing that worked to relieve swelling in my throat & lymphnodes. A couple spoonfuls in hot water or tea & I was back to my healthy self in a few short days!! 

    4. Vitamin E Oil -Unfortunately, stretch marks are hereditary. HOWEVER! I am not convinced that there isn’t anything you can do to minimize them. “If it’s in your genes, you’re gonna get them & there’s nothing you can do about it.” So I’ve been told a million times by my mama peers.*Eye roll* Vitamin E oil promotes elasticity in your skin. I use this religiously in my night routine & have yet to see even the faintest stretch mark. Now I know they may come closer to my due date but I remain optimistic! There are so many products out there devoloped to “prevent” & minimize stretch marks that actually do work in one way or another. I fully believe in vitamin E oil to tackle them before they’re seen! 

    5. Acne Spot Treatment – Hormonal changes during pregnancy throws your skin out of whack!! Blemishes immediately made an appearance early into my pregnancy. For most, your hormones will balance out later on & your skin will probably go back to what “normal” was for you pre-pregnancy. That isn’t always the case, though. My go-to throughout my entire pregnancy so far has been my Arbonne Intensive Acne Spot treatment. I have THE most sensitive skin & whole heartedly believe in this brand because it’s the only line that helped me since puberty! I’m not saying this is the ONLY product for everyone, but your skin WILL change & it’s important to find what works for you during those breakout days! Trust me, you will see more of them when growing a precious human inside of you. 

    I hope these essentials can help a future mama-to-be out the way they’ve helped me!   The dreaded first trimester doesn’t have to be as miserable as many claim it to be. Discovering these products early helped to make my pregnancy that much more enjoyable from the very beginning!

    Baby Girl Haul!!

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    Hi there!! Today I share with you all my first baby haul for our daughter!! Since finding out the gender, we have hardly been able to contain ourselves in spoiling her with a wardrobe of floral prints, glitter & bows!🌸🎀✨💕 We’re grateful to have also received several gifts from friends & family so far!

    22 week update | An emotional scare

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    Thank you for stopping by again. This weeks blog is a little different in that there was so much going on these last few days and so much on my mind that I felt it easier to sit in front of the camera and just be real with you all.​ 

    Halfway there! | 20 week anatomy scan, & starting my birth plan!

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    Hello again! As of today I am 20 weeks + 2 days! I cannot believe how fast the first half of this pregnancy has gone. 
    Today we had our 20 week anatomy scan. Corey & I chose to have the gender written & sealed to be given to a family friend who is putting together our gender reveal surprise. We’re just one week away from the big announcement!

    Besides the looking for gender, the ultrasound tech measured and recorded Peanut’s heart, brain & organ development, head circumference, length & weight. Our little one weighs a whopping 13 oz & is measuring at exactly 20w + 2 d.

    After reviewing our anatomy scan, our OB determined everything to be looking FANTASTIC!! a huge sigh of relief😌

    As for how I’m doing, I am now +6 lbs from prepregnancy weight. My ultrasound also confirmed my hunch that I have an anterior placenta! This means my placenta is growing closer to my belly rather than my spine, acting as a pillow to Peanut’s kicks. I have been curious of this being the case because I have yet to feel movement. My blood pressure continues to remain under control with a simple baby aspirin daily. At this point, I can now be diagnosed with preeclampsia at any time given the symptoms arise. So far we’re looking good👌🏽

    Due to this summer heating up, I am advised to stay very hydrated & limit outdoor activity to avoid swelling. My diet remains daily low sodium.

    I have begun to research my birth plan!

    I have chosen to remain unmedicated for as long as possible but will have a saline lock. I prefer to be induced naturally with a foley bulb. Shall my labor not progress, I am open to other forms of induction. 

    I am not naive to the pain of labor & delivery so I will get an epidural should I feel I need it. I will first attempt alternative methods to medication such as free movement, breathing exercises, jacuzzi labor & a birthing ball. 

    Disclaimer** In no way am I against any form of labor & delivery. I would never judge another woman for how they choose to bring their baby into the world. My decision to attempt an unmedicated birth is simply for the fact that I would love to, at least once, experience & feel every moment (no matter how painful) of labor & delivery. My mom had a natural hospital birth with me & I feel I am capable of the same!

    There are still many decisions to make regarding my birth plan. Of course my & baby’s health are ultimately what’s most important & I fully trust my OB’s recommendations to ensure a safe & healthy delivery. 

    This concludes my post for the day! In the next two weeks we will share details & reactions of GENDER REVEAL so stay tuned!

    The First Trimester! | First OB appointments, Symptoms + High Risk?

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    Welcome back! My first trimester experience was a whirlwind of emotions! Keep reading to learn all about my symptoms, my first appointments & why I’m high risk!😧

    Immediately after learning I was pregnant I was fatigued & morning sickness was pretty much “any time of day sickness.” I also started craving salty food early on.

    At my first OB appointment we had an ultrasound. Peanut measured at 7 weeks 1 day & had a heartbeat of 159bpm! What a relief!!!

    If you don’t know already, a majority of miscarriages occur in the first trimester. Risk of miscarriage once the heartbeat is detected goes drops quite a bit. By the end of the twelfth week, your chance of misscarriage drops to just 1%.

    I met my OB, Dr. K (her last name is nearly impossible to pronounce correctly). She is wonderful!

    She determined that I was high risk due to having chronic high blood pressure. I blame bad genetics!! HBP increases my risk of developing Preeclampsia, a potentially serious or fatal complication for mom or baby if left untreated. Because of this, I will be induced one week early. I’m happy to say that since the end of my first trimester, my blood pressure has been a-ok!👌🏽

    Around week nine, my symptoms pretty much suddenly subsided. I learned later that this is normal due to the placenta taking over most of the baby’s needs around that time. 

    My final first trimester appointment was my twelve week appointment where we heard Peanut’s heartbeat once again on a fetal doppler. 170bpm! I’m starting to think if the old wives tales are true, this baby may just be a princess💕  


    Overall, I had a very easy first trimester compared to most women. I made it entirely through the first 14 weeks without getting sick. I no longer had any food aversions & my energy slowly came back! 

    Making it out of the first trimester has lowered my anxiety immensely!! I felt like I could finally take a breath & just enjoy my pregnancy without worries. Corey & I were so excited to be able to announce our secret  to the rest of world. It was a difficult one to keep so I apologize to anyone who noticed the anti-social me during those weeks! 

    We’ve started to purchase a few thing for baby. Books, basic clothing essentials, etc. 

    Next will finally be our GENDER REVEAL!!! 

    Our anatomy scan is scheduled June 9th. Corey & I will not be find out out the gender that day. Our ultrasound tech will put the results in an envelope. One lucky family friend will receive those results & order our gender reveal surprise. 

    We will celebrate our gender reveal with our immediate family and closest friends June 17th!!💙💕⚾️🎀 So stay tuned!!