I thought I’d switch it up a bit from my usual pregnancy updates & share with you all my Fiancé & I’s love story from where it all began. We have a long history that most people (even some of our closest friends) don’t even know about😱
Corey & I’s story began 10 years ago when we were just fifteen years old. I initially saw Corey in a bowling alley & it truly felt like love at first sight for me. Nerdy, I know. I can’t describe in words how or why I was so instantly drawn to him but in that moment I knew I needed to know his name. A friend of mine was gracious enough to find out. The next day I messaged him on Facebook & introduced myself.
We instantly connected. After our first conversation, we exchanged numbers & began texting almost daily. A few weeks later, texts turned into phone calls. Short calls before dinner, turned into calls that lasted until 5am.
We knew early on that a “serious” high school relationship was nearly impossible for us for various circumstances.
1. We went to different schools in different towns.
2. We were both active in sports.
3. Our extra curricular activities were almost entirely opposite so there were very few days in the year that we’d ever have a chance to be face-to-face.
We kept our relationship strictly no strings attached (although my heart was fully attached from the beginning) throughout the following three years of high school.
Shortly after my sixteenth birthday, I vividly remember one conversation that has stuck with me all these years. I told Corey that no matter what our futures held after high school, that I would never forget him being the first boy I’d fallen in love with & that he’d always be a little more special than whoever I married because of that. Corey replied that I never had to think of a future without him because he was going to marry me one day❤️
Emotionally, our non-exclusive immature relationship took a toll on my fragile, teenage heart over the following two years. Jealousy & separation anxiety began to hinder everything we had. We both tried dating other people, purposely trying to make each other jealous & while our feelings for each other were telling us one thing, our regular busy lives were telling us this was just bad timing.
Being one grade ahead, the end of my senior year was approaching. I had to start thinking about life without Corey once college started.
Graduating & starting college was supposed to be an exciting experience to look forward to but for me, it was a heartbreaking experience. Corey & I mutually agreed our relationship ended there & our lives without each other would begin.
Life without him
I began college feeling incomplete & insecure not having someone like Corey to fall back on. I landed myself into a long 3 1/2 year emotionally abusive relationship where my darkest days came out & severely effected my mental & physical health. I had lost all sense of self-worth. I felt like I was constantly fighting for affection & respect.
Corey & I sporadically checked in with each other from time to time throughout those 3 1/2 years. I couldn’t help but always feel a little bit of that heartbreak overcome me again each time we caught up. Corey was living happily without me. Here I was miserable, like this was as good as it was going to get for me & there was no way out.
As time went on, I could see my relationship was never going to get any better & Corey was there for me when I finally made the conscious decision to put an end to my relationship & move home.
I moved home just after my 22nd birthday, landed myself an awesome job & began spending as much time with Corey as I had the chance to. Everything was different this time. In my opinion, being in separate relationships & growing up without each other only helped both of us realize exactly what we wanted in a life partner. Corey was extremely patient with me while I slowly overcame low self-esteem, recovered from an eating disorder & learned to accept an unconditional love I had not experienced in my previous relationship.
Three Years Later
Today i’m engaged to the boy I fell in love with at the innocent age of fifteen. We’re expecting a beautiful baby girl, living the life we talked about having together ten year ago. As much as I would’ve loved to spend every waking moment with Corey from day one, our roller coaster of history has shaped our relationship into one that I don’t think we would’ve maturely grown to appreciate had we not experienced the ups & downs we did. Not everyone gets the opportunity to find a love like we have & for that I am so blessed❤️